We were up in Kenosha today, celebrating two friends’ 35th anniversary together and their recent wedding in New York. It was wonderful to spend the afternoon eating awesome food, drinking wine, chatting and reconnecting with friends.
One of the celebrants, in his thank you to all who came, shared that their marriage is recognized in 18 countries, 13 states, the District of Columbia, several counties in New Mexico, six Native American tribal jurisdictions, and (thanks to the Obama administration and the Supreme Court) the federal government of the United States. CC continued that all of this would not have happened without the love and support of all who were there this afternoon.
And I suppose this is the point. Love is clearly, as pervasive as its rendering is in our culture, not an easy commodity to come by, hold, or even keep. It is incredibly precious and sometimes too rare and the fact that some love is not recognized or held as valid in our 2013 society is as shocking as it is disturbing. The notion that love can only come in one heterosexual flavor denies the lived reality and the humanity of countless numbers of men and women.
Today’s celebration needed to be political too. Afterall, there is still a long road to go before equity is fully achieved. I was honored to be a part of this celebration of commitment, not only JH’s and CC’s commitment to each other, but all of our commitment to continue working for equity and formal recognition for all loving relationships.